Parenting

I wont lie, im not the best parent in the world.

I dont...
spoil them with toys and candy when we go to the store.
buy cute little snacks or chips cause their favorite characters are on it.
let them ride in the "fun/cool" buggies at the store.
let my kids get away with, hitting each other, the pets, the wall, or me.
make special meals for my kids if they refuse to eat what everyone else is eating.

I do...
buy the vitamins that have the most in them, even if they are not cars.
discipline my kids, with the corner, time-out, and spanking.
what I can to make my kids happy.
give my kids a clean place to sleep and meals on the table.
make my kids clean up all their toys & messes before bed time.
try to read to my kids every night.
take my kids outside everyday.

So what I dont get is why Heath acts the way he does. Ive noticed its gotten so much worse since Adam has left (and whats sad is this is just a 5 week training opp, not the 7 month deployment). Heath constantly whines from the moment he wakes up to the moment he goes to bed. He is constantly squaking at Owen or me. Screams if he doesnt get his way. Tells me no constantly. Runs around like a little fairy when he throws a fit.

Where did I got wrong? What can I do to better myself and him?

Im so worried that Owen will see Heath act like this and start in on it too. When Owen gets upset he swats at me or the dog, and yes I do pop his hand.

Maybe I just need some me time, like a hour break or something.